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Dating Tips For Middle Aged Men – The Basics
By OnTopic | March 8, 2010
Asking a man about dating is a lot like asking him how well he can drive. Just about any man who has ever dated for a long period of time thinks he is an expert. Quite a few have even cashed in on their conquests and written books on how to be a dating success. Just search ‘how to pickup women’ or ‘dating secrets’ to get an idea on what is out there.
Sure, some of these books and DVD’s will actually give you a boost if your love life has been on a bit of a lean streak lately. But before forking out some hard earned cash on these how to books, why not start with a few basic hints for that first date that you can get for free.
Just remember before we start though – you cannot generalize when it comes to women. Every woman is different and each woman needs to be treated as an individual. Any theory about how to treat women can only be a general guideline and not a rigid road-map to success.
Let Her Talk About Herself
We live in an age of equality but that does not mean that you can treat your date like a neighbor you are having a beer with. Women love good manners and the more you display, the more she will respect you.
Any date must be a 50:50 affair if it is to have any chance of success. Let her talk about herself as much as you talk about yourself. Let her know that what interests her also interests you as you and your date need to have things in common. But don’t expect to have everything in common – that will be like dating yourself. If she’s interested in things you know nothing about, be honest and ask her to tell you more. She will love it. Pretending to be an expert where you are not will only cause you problems.
Create That First Impression
Don’t kill the romance before it can get started. Your first date is not like turning up to a family get-together … make sure you are on time or just a few minutes late. Don’t be early – that is just a little desperate. And if you are going to be more than 10 minutes late, give her a quick call to let her know you are not standing her up. Something like “hey, I am stuck in traffic and will be 15 minutes late”. Being late will create the impression that you are not taking the date seriously. Once she thinks that, she won’t take you seriously.
Some Old Fashioned Values
Flowers or no flowers? The jury is out on this one. If you are middle-aged and dating in small town, then flowers might make a nice impression. Flowers for a 20-something dating a modern woman in a big city? Probably not a great idea. It might show you are interested, or it could just just be an awkward moment. If you don’t know her that well yet, why take the risk?
What all women do enjoy though is a man with a sense of humor. Do your best to make your date laugh and smile. If you feel comfortable, even tease her a little to create some sexual tension. This one takes a little practice but can yield some great results. Many guys attempt to impress women by talking about their jobs; that’s a great way to bore her. Just tell her what you do and stop talking. If she is interested in what you do, she will ask you more about it. If not, talking about it will just bore her and she will lose interest. To start with, keep you answers short and to the point without making it appear that you are trying to hide something. And be truthful about what you do. Don’t lie to impress her.
No one is perfect and you are guaranteed to screw up at times, but that is part of the learning curve. Just treat her like a person and not a sex object, she will forgive you and you can easily recover from your mistakes.
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